Sometimes you just need a victory
It’s been a while since I last won. Employment evades my every move. Having moved to a New York City a month ago, my job search just saw its 40th day. Interviews end with smiles and closed doors. I cannot afford social occassions; instead spending my evenings writing in coffee shops. You know the feeling. You feel unwanted, lost, alone, exhausted, and emotionally extinquished. You feel defeated.
Sometimes you just need a victory. Find a dream to grasp towards. Create a milestone. Put faith in your ability. Focus. Achieve the impossible, and never give up.
It sounds way too simple to me. In these situations I generally freak. Full of anxiety, I write endless todo lists and lie listlessly awake at night. The suggestion forays against this hardcore.
Simply Focus
That’s all. My only suggestion. It is important to recognize what went wrong, learn from mistakes, and evaluate your position. The importance of budgeting can’t be ignored nor can any other reconcillatory step should be accounted for. However worrying about all of these things destroys my ability to even remember what I was trying to achieve. So! The goal now is to simply focus.
Focus on a Dream No Matter How Crazy
I will extend my earlier point. A goal at the end of the tunnel makes the craving for it easier to grasp and amplifies the intensity. Decide on your dream and focus on it. And don’t just pick any dream, pick your dream.
Personally, I’ve been looking for a job because I want to pay off my debts and live comfortably. That’s not a dream. My dream is to sustain a life of learning alongside providing support and love to everyone around me.
Now, take that dream and create a milestone, something that’ll show progress. Make it small at first. Once you’ve achieved this make it bigger until it matches your dream. My first milestone is simple: Apply for five more jobs and make a stranger smile. I know it’s not big, but it’s a step and a simple one at that.
Victory
With time, you’ll reach that Dream. It doesn’t even matter if you reach your dream. By reaching for it you’ll achieve wonders. Every milestone you reach, you’ve made a victory. Everything will fall into place. Try it for thirty days and if it fails on you, e-mail me and I’ll formally apologize.